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Boundaries Set You Free: Learning how to create & joyfully live within boundaries.
Parcels of land have contractual, rigid boundaries—some are noticeably marked with fences, while others are more subtly designated by a change in sidewalk stone or by plant variations. Using precise locations, they divide one unit from the next to assist in development, valuation, and sales.
People have boundaries, too. However, their personal and professional boundaries are typically imaginary, are often not agreed upon, and are sometimes flexible to the point of not existing.
A common behavior among those who live an organized life is living within a set of evolving boundaries, so it is worth thoughtful consideration. Do you know what your boundaries are? Are they clearly defined so outsiders know before they cross them? Do you immediately know when someone has obstructed them? Do you impose them consistently? Do you reliably respect them?
You know from experience without proper boundaries, work takes over your life…or children do…or other people do. Furthering the concept, you also know that kept boundaries, strangely, manifest freedom. They help you to avoid time wasters, stop accepting unreasonable requests, and curtail inappropriate behavior from others so you have the liberty to do the things you want to do.
When you notice your energy is running low or you feel resentful, you likely need to erect a new boundary—or to respect an existing one you’re ignoring. Take time over the next several weeks to determine what boundaries you need to establish in order to maintain a healthy blend of family, work and rest. Maybe you decide missing your yoga practice Tuesday evening is completely unacceptable. Perhaps you determine replying to email over the weekends is off limits. Possibly you decide your children can indulge in a maximum of one hour of computer/television/video game screen time per day. Conceivably you resolve to participate in only two committee positions at any one time.
Following are the steps to inventing these freeing restrictions:
Boundaries are an essential key separating the joyfully productive from the regretfully overloaded. We needed them as children, and we need them as adults. Have fun with creating and honoring your own network of liberating limitations.
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